While you might be able to live with that, don’t think that being his current love interest will ever lead to being his girlfriend or any bigger commitment. If this sounds story sounds familiar, then, sadly, you’re just another girl to him, and not his forever person. The error, of course, was liking other women and not committing to him. So, she hoped he would see that over time and finally realize the “error” of his ways. With the guy in the introduction, one of the women he liked regarded him as the best, someone she wanted to marry. They might have been looking for someone, but it wasn’t the women they hung out with regularly. While they clearly liked many of the women they dated, they never took that final step to become boyfriend and girlfriend, let alone husband and wife.īut, they strung along many women until the woman got sick of their lack of commitment and ended it. My two examples in this article never ended up committing. If he’s a confirmed lifelong bachelor and player, be warned that you aren’t likely to get him committed. He might be ready down the line or he might never be ready. If you want him to commit, you think he’s the “one,” but he might not agree.įor guys like this, you might just have to accept the fact he’s not ready for the relationship you want. While that’s true of some guys, for others they’re just looking for the right person. Remember, just because he wants to date around doesn’t make him a player. Regardless, if he doesn’t commit to you, but won’t let go, it might be because even though he enjoys your romantic company, he also enjoys not being tied down. Some might be open to a more committed relationship, but only with the exact right person. Some men are very happy with their independence and enjoy dating around. He doesn’t fear commitment or have any “issues.” These women can’t fathom it, but he just doesn’t want to “settle down” and give up the fun of being single. Many of them practically beg him to commit. He dates around, but never makes anything too official with any one woman. I have a relative who is successful and good looking. They just don’t want to do it for whatever reason. Some people don’t have an issue with commitment. He’ll have to come to believe that you’re worth commitment.īut, keep in mind that, as the next point shows, not everyone fears commitment. In this case, you’ll have to be patient with him and build greater trust.
Regardless of his reasons, he might genuinely like you, but have trouble committing out of fear. All of this may color his views of committing. He might have watched his parents fight through a bitter divorce. Maybe he had an ex that cheated on him, or a marriage that slowly failed. Serious relationships can be scary, especially if you want him to formally commit through marriage.įear of commitment can come from multiple sources. However, he might just fear commitment, or greater commitment. If he expresses his love and seems to connect with you on many levels, then it’s likely that he has deep feelings for you. You’ll have to decide what you’re willing to do about it, especially if you feel the arrangement is no longer making you happy. If he won’t commit, but won’t let go either, then he’s clearly getting more out of the relationship than you. If his goal is only sex, a friend with benefits, casual dating, or being a “player,” then no matter what he says, his actions will show what he really wants. Some guys don’t want a long term relationship.
But, if he won’t commit, he’s saying loud and clear that he doesn’t want a committed relationship. If he doesn’t leave, you’re giving him something he wants. If you are currently trying to date a guy who won’t commit, you need to ask “what do we both want?” If you want commitment and he doesn’t, you have different goals for the relationship.